Blogging & Twitter Behaviour 101
I work with child behaviour but I am a big observer of adult behaviour too and see similarities in both. When I am working with children the first point I get across to parents is that I am on the child’s side as I endeavour to unravel why the child is behaving a certain way. I believe that children do not do anything with deep malice or intent but are behaving a certain way as a form of expression that they cannot yet verbalise in another way.
I believe as aduts we all to an extent have the tools to verbalise how we feel. We are also fully aware or should be fully aware of how our actions, words and how we behave can effect those around us. We are after all human and should treat others how we would like to be treated.
Behaviour IRL - In Real Life
This is a hard post to write but my heart keeps telling me to do it, so here goes. The last few weeks I have been very fortunate in attending a number of blogging events and there is always such a good buzz and feeling at these events because everyone there has the same passion about blogging. A passion that some of our closest friends and even family members just don’t get.
We form great relationships on Twitter, share a laugh, support each other and even have a cry. The support I have received when my Miss 15 was ill and the ongoing kindness I have regarding my mother is just better than awesome. It’s a giant virtual hug that I really need at times and there is nearly always someone there to give one.
Maybe I’m too soft, maybe I need to toughen up, maybe a misread situations, or maybe I read too much into them, but I’m not alone.
Every couple of hours I have to call home and speak to mum, it is a loud Spanish conversation, where people walking pass look at me strangely, so I always find somewhere I can talk without too many looks.
Making my way out of the venue I saw someone crying, so I went over to ask if they were OK and if I could help. This made them cry even more. So I took them outside for a walk and chat. This person was a blogger and this was one of the first events they had attended and they had arrived full of excitement in finally meeting bloggers that they had formed relationships with on line Tweeting.
They had gone over to say Hi and have a Squeee, they were rejected on the spot with a curt “oh” and with the person then turning their back to them.
Now I tried to say maybe they were busy, maybe they didn’t realise who you were, maybe they are having a bad day, there were lots of maybes. Yet they said No, they knew who I was, they chose to ignore me as they are now quite a popular blogger. Now I know this blogger and have met them before and therefore stood up for them and reassured the upset person that these events can be overwhelming with so many people to meet and say hello too and that this blogger was indeed a lovely person.
I convinced this person, to try again, perhaps I could come with them as I really do not think it matters how pouplar a blogger is, our passion is all the same and we are all human from different backgrounds, yet blogging brings us together.
Behaviour – Too Big For Your Boots
We returned back together just before a talk was about to begin, I noticed lots of empty seats in a row so went over with this person to sit down, only to be told “You can’t sit here, or here or here or here or here” Not a “Hello sorry these are taken” These seats stayed empty throughout the talk.
I was really stuck as to what to say to this newer blogger about the behaviour she was experiencing as now I had come across it too. I thought I’d cheer them up by easing the introduction for them with the original blogger they had try to say hello too. But I was very wrong I too went over and was spoken to like a was a little speck that they really didn’t want to deal with.
Working with behaviour I do understand that pretty much any factor can affect it, yet when you see someone being very nice to another and not having the time of day for you, you start to wonder if the online relationship is truly a friendship.
Now as I try to not over think this, it still confuses me. I had such a wonderful time talking to new friends and old friends and missed talking to many but managed a hi, a quick touch on their shoulder with a smile and a nod.
So what I think I’m trying to say that as bloggers we have to remember and be thankful of the great blogging community, we need to remember that although these events are intense, loud and can feel overpowering we are all there for the same reason. To learn, to meet and acknowledge all bloggers. It’s normally the blogging community that made you popular so don’t forget your roots and who put you there.
I have met so many wonderful bloggers and I explained this to my new friend who felt rejected and I still stand with the thought that they were just having a bad day, as they have been lovely in the past and that makes me feel a little better as it did my new friend.
I know we cannot possibly get on with everyone we meet but a polite hello is not too much to ask or is it?
So am I misreading or reading too much into things or have you experienced something similar ?