“Next Time, There Won’t Be A Next Time”
Time slips through my life at what seems an incredibly fast past. I’m constantly in disbelief, school pick up seems to be only an hour after I’ve dropped off, a three hour client appointment feels like ten minutes, a few times a day I say ” Is that the time already ?” Yet time is always the same, it does not speed up or slow down. It’s just me, my concept, my life, my time.
Time is always constant through out our lifes, different situations and our frame of mind is what makes time seem to go faster or slower. When something totally horrendous is happening time can actually seem to completely stop, when we are having fun, time seems to speed up. Some people at work find time drags, other find “there are not enough hours to get everything done” - Yet time is always the same.
Time Is Now
Our Time is precious, we all have a lot to do but we also have a lot that we believe we have to do. We set ourselves up with never ending lists, but the important stuff doesn’t even make it to our list at times. That’s not a criticism, that’s just life, we get swept up, we push ourselves, we feel we must do it all. We should actually have more time with modern technology but we don’t. Social Media keeps us informed 24/7; we update our lifes on Facebook, we chat to our friends on Twitter, we find stuff we like and Pinterest it, we need to see what’s happening in the blogosphere and either stumble-upon it or check our Google readers. This all take time. You think I’ll just be on Twitter for five minutes – Ha! before you know it, a great conversation has sucked you in and your time for the next twenty minutes.
I panic when I see #FF”s (Follow Friday) what happens if I don’t say Thanks, what happens if I don’t do any FF”s, will they think I’m rude and stuck up? What if I do FF’s and miss someone out ? You know nothing bad happens, your friends are still there -phew.
As I was wrapping presents last night, Eminem blaring through my office I felt he was singing to me, this is totally normal I have a diverse taste in music and songs and they all seem to sing to me personally, or I imagine that I’m on stage doing a duet them ( you may find this a bit alarming for a 43 year old -but I’m cool with it.) “Next Time, There Wont’ Be A Next Time” – how true is that, each moment of time is now, then it passes on to the next moment, it doesn’t come back, it doesn’t repeat. I may offer Eminem employment as my life guru.
Yesterday I did it, I took Mr 6 too see Santa. Mr 6 asked Santa for an X-Box and more family time. As I heard him say this, I actually felt my heart tug or thump, it did something unusual, along with Eminem it gave me a sign, a sign to spend time with my own children, family and friends.
Working with child behaviour, one of the changes I ask families to make is Time. I ask them to increase their one to one time with their child whilst together we work through to positive happy outcomes for all. I am so very fortunate that my children are OK with mum’s work hours, plus caring for Grandma and all the usual stuff, then hearing Mr 6 say this has refocused me into putting them at the top of my to do list alongside with hubby who always has my back and my mum because now I’m her mum.
I am writing out vouchers for them as part of their Christmas presents and actually scheduling dates with them into my diary for next year, sounds a bit nuts but I want to give my time to them. My time whilst they are my children. My time to the Hubby as he’s been here for nineteen years and always has my back and my time to mum because every moment of time for her is new.
These are just a few of my Time Voucher gifts
- Playing Zombie/Fairy Nerf Gun battle in the secret jungle
- Helping build the giant Lego police set from last year
- An afternoon of mini- golf
- Baking Pirate Cupcakes
- Sorting out our mini herb garden
- Playing Pictionary
- Back rubs
- Reading more together
- Ice skating
- Bombing Competitions in the pool
- Movie night
- Playing the Tooting game when I drive
- Just being me -no distractions all electronic devices in my office switched off.
- Guiness Book of The Brown Family World Records
- Me Spanish Dancing Flamenco for Mum
- Organising with Miss 15 her 16th Birthday Party (This I cannot believe, she’s turning 16)
Time is what it is
Everyday I know exactly how much time I have, I know in the mornings I need a minimum of forty five minutes to get mum out of bed, because everyday is a completely new experience for her. Mum has to relearn how to take small steps as she relearns to walk every morning, putting in her dentures is a new experience every morning, basically mum relives each day as a new day and so do I.
I’m switching off for a month, any posts you see and some facebook updates have been scheduled, I’ll keep an eye on Twitter in my time also know as loo time and I’m giving them Nathalie back for Christmas and with lots more of me in 2012.
I have sent no Christmas client cards and I was meant to email many of you with Christmas Wishes -but I haven’t but I only finished work yesterday, so give me a break Suffice to say I hope you all have the best Christmas YOU can have.
I hope you have a Christmas that is not too stressful, I send virtual hugs to those that do not like Christmas or struggle through Christmas due to current issues or past memories. Time passes and can heal old wounds but I do know they never really fully leave – I understand I have been there too.
Enjoy the moments that make you laugh and smile ……..
Love, Sparkles and Christmas Bubbles….