Too Scared To Blog!
In the last few weeks I’ve been a Blogging, Twitter and Face book
voyeur observer, keeping my head down as I read posts, status updates and tweets trying to immerse myself into the blogosphere and attempting to learn from everyone. I have found awesome new bloggers and made an effort to leave comments or at least re-tweet. I have seen some amazing supportive outcomes from bloggers and readers donating when asked, wonderful words of advice and support and also the not so nice -just like the real world.
Blogging is the real world online, with one major difference you can hide behind anonymity, or you can be yourself and a lot more bolshy as you feel your blood boil when you read a blog you don’t agree with, or see status that drives you nuts. This is all OK, I read posts I don’t agree with, I read blogs that contradict each other as they battle over the same topic and I can appreciate where both blogs are coming from. Some blogs are very tongue in cheek, some are right in your face, everyone is different. I see stuff on Face Book that either makes me cringe or annoyed -this is human nature. We are all different and at times so very different.
It’s My Blog
So many posts I’ve read recently start with “I was scared to publish this blog” or “I’m ready for the onslaught” that I started to get doubts in my own head. Sure I’ve had my share of emails and comments of being a bad mother, living in a fantasy world, and so much worse. When I first blogged back in June 2011 these comments use to really fire me up I was angry, did they not read what I was saying fully ? They have misread what I’m saying. I wrote that wrongly I should not have published that blog.
Today I’ve realised it’s my blog I can write what I like, and so can you. We as bloggers set our own boundaries, we have our own values and integrity. My experience is with children and Alzheimer’s so that’s my blog. I try not to sound condescending when I blog, I certainly don’t tell you how to parent, I blog about my experiences with the children I work with, my own two kids, my mum and the passion I have which is child behaviour.
Variety is the Spice of Blogs
We all have a lot on our plate and we come from a variety of backgrounds and situations, no one can really know 100% why you are like you are. We have different expectations, a diversity in what we believe and the values that we hold, so that applies to what we blog about. Even on blogs I don’t necessaritly agree with I can normally find something to learn about that blogger even if it’s a minimal connection in that we both blog.
There is so much going on in our real worlds that is absolutely horrendous that at times I think we need to take a little step back before venting and raging and attacking a blogger, is it worth the slog? Maybe it is, I prefer to walk away most of the time. Maybe I’m too soft or my plate is too full with the real life issues I deal with at home with mum or the children I work with who have been through hell, or I give a lot of benefit of the doubt as I don’t know the whole scenario leading to that post. I read and follow so many bloggers that are completely chalk and cheese, but this is what I love, this is behaviour at is rawest form. The voices in our head are all different. I’ve read things that have made question humanity to it’s basest form and I’ve read things that have made me believe in human kindness -behaviour is complex and there is more good in the blogosphere than bad.
I like to see blogging as a vast newsagent rack full of magazines, I flick through the ones I like, I read what I want and don’t read what I don’t like. I’ve been writing blogs and getting worried that I shouldn’t publish them and rewrite them a zillion times because I don’t want anyone to leave a bad comment and I’ve come to realised that there is now way in the world you can keep the whole blogosphere happy, just like the real world. This is me and I choose to write from the heart and that’s what I’ll continue doing I hope you do too, the blogosphere is massive there is room for everyone to find a connection with some-one’s blogging -blog your heart out, delete the nasty comments and hold your head up high -This is YOUR Blog, YOUR space and YOUR Thoughts.
I have made some amazing frienships online and for that I’m so very grateful, they’ve kept me sane in my saddest moments and they’ve made me laugh so hard that my hubby thinks I’m insane -it’s a double edged sword- there’s ups and downs just like life and behaviour.
BE YOU. BE YOUR BLOG.