Teenage behaviour “Do you remember your teenage years?”
I mentor and work with teenagers and am very lucky that they let me into their world. I remember my teenage years as being rather confusing, feeling very self conscious, slightly awkward with a million and one questions in my head.
I was 100% sure my parents did not understand what I was going through and their views and opinions seem to be prehistoric. I wanted some freedom, I did not really want to decide my career path and be sensible every minute of every day.
Were you a perfect teenager? Did you get A grades all the time? Did you listen and agree to your parents every word ? Did you feel understood? Can you empathise with teenagers today, when you think back to your teenage years?
As a parent of a teenager and working with teenagers, I find myself reflecting back and really thinking about how I felt as a teenager helps my understanding of them a little more.
Teenage behaviour & Toddler behaviour
Remember your teenager, when they were a toddler? Just like a toddler, teenage behaviour is comparable to being a toddler a teenager has more words to use, a bigger body to feed and some extra strong hormones raging through their bodies (think PMS x 10)
Toddler wants to exert their independence / Teenager wants to exert their independence
Toddlers asks why? / Teenagers ask why?
Toddlers question everything / Teenagers questions everything.
Toddler is developing into a child / Teenager is developing into an adult
Toddler sleep patterns change (lose a nap) / Teenage sleep patterns change (night owls)
Toddler are messy / Teenagers are messy.
Toddler wants to choose what they wear; gum boots, tutu and no top / Teenagers want to choose what they wear; Emo, Goth, piercings, hair dyed etc…
Toddlers like saying No / Teenagers like saying No
Toddlers have temper tantrums / Teenagers have mood swings
Toddlers dribble when teething / Teenagers dribble with braces or lack of sleep
Toddlers language can take some interpretation to understand / Teenagers language can take some interpretation to understand “2G2BT 511 “
Toddlers exhaust you / Teenagers exhaust you
Toddlers have attitude / Teenagers have attitude
Toddlers can be fussy / Teenagers can be fussy
Toddlers want to run free / Teenagers just want to be free
Toddlers want to explore / Teenagers want to explore
Toddlers are minors / Teenagers are minors
Toddlers need their parents / Teenagers need their parents
Teenage behaviour; it’s not intentional!
Teenage behavioural issues, are not intentional or done out of sheer malice. A teenager is a child growing into adulthood. Teenagers need their parents to be parents as they have many friends at school. Teenage behaviour like all behaviour is changeable, because the majority of behaviour is a pattern or a habit.
Like a toddler who needs boundaries, a teenager needs them too. Like a toddler, a teenager that hears to many ‘No’s’ becomes desensitized to them. Teenage behaviour is affected by may factors like their hormones, parents, peer pressure, school, social media, and regular media TV shows, movies, music and magazines.
The majority of teenagers do want an easy life and to get on with their parents. But they are losing their innocence and naivety of childhood and also get hit by the fact that this is what life is really about, it is not all fun and games. Many teens I speak to are disheartened with the realisation of the real world as they step over into the threshhold of adulthood.
Teenagers love to talk and at times that is all they need, a listening ear to help guide them through the whirlwind of emotions they are feeling.
The teenage years do pass just like the toddler years, it can get bumpy, but you can have some fantastic moments too.