This post is not about what I learnt from attending the awesome sessions at Problogger as I only attended the initial and ending speakers keynote and a lounge session on monetization. Picking up the general gist through Twitter and from speaking to attendees and friends. One word keeps coming up ‘dream’. Dream is a beautiful word it encompasses something we want with a fiery passion. The dreams I have scare me. They give me butterflies. They can and do exhaust me. It is my dream yet at times my nightmare.
Dedication kicks in through the frustrations, the misunderstandings, some crying and a
some chocolate cake. A big fat zero of nothing will happen if you are not dedicated to your dream. Your dream needs action to turn it into reality. There are no shortcuts. There will be rejection, criticism, days possibly weeks where you feel you take one step forward and two steps back. Our dreams can knock the confidence out of us when we face areas that we have no or little knowledge about as to make our dream real we realise we have to navigate through a mine field of things we never contemplated we needed to do.
Whatever your reasons were to attend Problogger and all of our reasons although very varied are centralised around blogging. Blogging whether it be personal blog or a business blog or a bit or both involves writing. Writing to connect.
Reality is your every day situation. It means being realistic of what you feel dedicated enough to accomplish on a daily basis. For new bloggers the reality is that you will not be able to monetize your blog in the first month. The reality is that your readers will not want to see a whole lot of sponsored posts if you have not connected with them initially through your writing. Reality is tough it is not fluffy and sweet. Your writing is your reality, your readers are your reality, connecting with your words comes first, not your SEO, not how awesome your blog/website looks, not how much you spent on advertising or promotions but your words and your writing. Your readers are looking for a connection, they looking for reality, give them that first above anything else.
Expectations within a personal dream are high. You are setting the bar you want to reach. With expectations allow yourself room to fall. It’s ok to fall and reset your expectations or start climbing back up. Expectations are personal. Give yourself the permission to have not so good days, celebrate the winning moments no matter how small. What you expect from others will not necessarily line up with what you receive in return. Your readers expect honesty, solutions, laughs and an understanding that they are not alone. Comparisons are futile and can be demoralising, trying to work out why someone else’s blog is so successful means you are comparing. Find and use your own voice in your blogging. Their success in blogging means they have connected with their readers.
Acceptance is not always favourable. Acceptance of any given situation does not necessarily mean it is a great situation to be in but acceptance that it is happening, perhaps beyond your control and being aware of how you act and not immediately react may give you the time to piece together the bigger picture. Understanding that not everyone will agree with you, or even understand your dream or blog is not always a personal attack. Our dreams are purely ours, we can share them through blogging but they won’t be everyone’s cup of tea.
Mistakes my personal learning curve is so full of mistakes that even thinking about them make me cringe. I have to step back frequently and see what the lesson was. At times the lesson is not clearly apparent sometimes with time it unravels with a definite I was totally wrong or with a I could have done better there. Admitting you’ve made mistakes keeps you real. Mistakes are a continuous part of learning. Mistakes are part of the nightmare. Nightmares show us we are real, fallible and not perfect. Our dreams our perfect in our heads, in reality there will be mistakes.
A dream takes time, blogging can help you fulfill your dream; keep writing, connecting and learning. Take time to reassess where you are at. What direction is your dream taking? Do you need to change the path? Be kind to yourself , it is ok to feel scared, your comfort zone will be stretched, take all the time you need.
My personal dream is happening, I make mistakes and apologise. As my dream evolves I have been pulled and advised in many directions. I’ve slipped up in the last few months, got lost in all that is going on, struggling to keep up, my dream has gained momentum and I am actively slowing it down. Re-focusing on my clients and the children I work with as they are the most important part of my dream. Dedicating this website and blog back to child behaviour the bigger picture. Any other blogging or writing I do like my posts on social media, my life and my thoughts will be some where else as a guest post. So let me know if you would like a guest post from me in the future (no deadlines please)
Keep following your dreams but don’t get too lost in them. Small steps and the occasional backward step are all part of real dreams actualising.