Love: Where’s the passion ?


The words “I love you”are the most powerful words, I know in changing behaviour someone’s behaviour. Your behaviour by loving who you are, your children’s behaviour by loving them for who they are, your partner’s behaviour, your family and friends behaviour by appreciating and loving who they are.

We all get caught up in up in daily life routines, that many things that we use to be passionate about, fall by the way side. I am not just talking about a passion for what we use to do, in our young free and single days, that was a crazy kind of passion- with boundless energy , where at times we felt invincible.

Where did the love & passion go?

As we get older our passion starts to subside, but that passion can be reignited. It does not have to be fervent passion but a love for who we are now and just remembering to put a little bit of love and passion into what we do.

I wanted children more than anything in the world, I wanted to be a mother, I wanted to be a wife, I actually secretly relished the thought of being a stay at home mum. This is lasted with each child for two years, although I had promised myself I would return to work after six months.

As a first time mum, it felt like I’d been hit by a truck. Where was this love I was meant to feel as a mother and wife ? I did not love myself, I did love being at home as much as I thought I would and even felt jealous of hubby going out to work.

Bringing back the Love & Passion

It can be difficult to inject the love and passion back into your life, especially if your spark is a little frazzled and not so sparkly. but  with little steps everything is it doable. Changing your behaviour increasing the love and passion by just a little will bring changes in the long run.

I had to bring back the love and passion, day by day I thought of ways to do this. This is what I came up with and I continue to implement as much as I can. Not everyday is a an easy ride, but these little things keep me going, or get me through the bumps, as tomorrow is another day.


I tell my kids I love them, especially at random moments when they east expect it, it even makes Miss 15 smile.

I tell my hubby I love him, when he’s explaining something technical and its going over my head.

I tell my mother I love her, she says so you should you’re my mum.

I tell a close friend I love them, and they always love me back, that’s two of us feeling better.

I give a genuine compliment which is a type of love to a random person everyday.

I play loud music when I have to tackle chores that I dislike for someone that cannot sing its is still a passion; singing along as I do the chores.

If I feel flat, I realise it is normal and don’t berate myself about it, and think of good loving moments in my life.

I am passionate about laughing and love a good giggle, will try and get laugh out of anyone, especially the kids.

I love to kiss, kiss my kids, kiss my hubby, kiss my mum… kiss kiss kiss.

I am lucky with my work that I get to see and experience daily the unconditioanl love and passion children have for life and I take a little of their passion and add it to mine.

I remember my talents

Bring back the love and passion, it is always in your heart, show those you love today by telling them you love them. “I love you” it’s very simple and quite easy to do.

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Nathalie Brown

Child Behaviour Consultant at Easy Peasy Kids
Child Behaviourist and researcher. Creator of "Less tantrums. More smiles". I look at the bigger picture and think outside the box when working with children and their behaviour. Their world is different. As adults we sometimes forget this. Happiness Creator in my spare time. Eater of chocolate and cake.

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  1. Beautiful, i tell my boys i love them all the time but it wont hurt to tell them a few more times 😉 xx

  2. The habit of saying “love you” that hubby and I have made a part of our daily lives is now shared with the munchkin. It never fails to melt away the anger and frustration when he says, “can I tell you something? Love you!” Obviously we’ve said it regularly enough to him. Not so keen on it at 3am, but how can you get cross?

  3. Just beautiful. ‘I love you’ are 3 very powerful words!

  4. Sometimes my 4yo pretends he can’t hear me (usually when I’m asking him to do something he doesn’t want to). “What did you say?” he asks over and over as I find myself repeating myself. So I stop and whisper in his ear “I love you” and he smiles.

    He hears that.

  5. Beautiful post – thank you for writing and sharing it with us.

  6. This should be on everyone’s remind them to actually share the love they feel for their special people in their life…I know myself I find it hard to say it……I think it is something that in my generation it was not heard as much…people took things for granted…again, I do not agree when people are used to use it so much that it becomes meaningless..on the other hand it is nice to hear a positive comment rather than a negative…thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts xxx

  7. I love this post !!!! it is one of those little reminders for me I often come here , Thak You xo

  8. Beautiful post. Such simple things to do & say but so often easily forgotten.

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