My Happy Place Days 12 & 13

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My Happy Place Days 12 & 13

My Happy Place has been a real lesson to me. I started it for one reason. The reason being my mother and how I was handling my emotions in caring for her. The sadness I was feeling knowing that the confusion and vagueness she has is always there. The tiredness of getting up during the night and just feeling overwhelmed in caring for her. But would not have it any other way, I’m pretty stubborn and just want her here with me.

Coming to My Happy Place has really helped me so much and I have been just as busy and still caring for mum , yet I have been able to see so many happy moments that I think that prior to the Happy Place, I have been missing.

My Happy Place has made me aware of my emotions and I feel I am handling everything a little better and I also love reading your posts and comments.

My Happy Place Today

Just looking at this photo makes me Happy. This was taken in August on my mum’s 79th Birthday. Mum has been living with us for over three years now.

Three years watching someone you love slowly become less coherent. Three years following a constant routine, which sometimes she remembers but at other times, its all a new thing. Imagine everyday forgetting how to brush your teeth and someone having to show you.

Waking up in the middle of the night, with no idea where you are, who you are and who the strange woman putting you back to bed and stroking your head is.

But in those three years my family all have ways of making mum laugh, Mr 6 will do funny dances for her, Miss 15 pulls funny faces, Hubby makes her laugh in the way he speaks Spanish and I just have to say a Spanish rude word and she giggles.

The Happy moments  are there everyday with her , I have remembered how to see them again. She may not know who I am every moment but today she looked at me and said “I love you” and that is a Happy moment that I will keep thinking of every time I with her and when I’m on my way back home from work to care for her.

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Love Nathalie X

 

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Nathalie Brown

Child Behaviour Consultant at Easy Peasy Kids
Child Behaviourist and researcher. Creator of "Less tantrums. More smiles". I look at the bigger picture and think outside the box when working with children and their behaviour. Their world is different. As adults we sometimes forget this. Happiness Creator in my spare time. Eater of chocolate and cake.

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Comments

  1. I have tears reading this Nathalie… I don’t know you or your family, but have come to think of your insights as part of my family. You are the reason I log onto FB every morning. I can’t imagine what you are gong through with yoiur mum, but you (and your family) are doing it with grace, compassion, stength and humour. I hope you continue to see and spend happy moments with your mum. Lots of love and hugs, Sooz.

    • Thank you Sooz I appreciate the lovely rapport I have with you and thanks for your beautiful words. In Life I believe we are all constantly trying and that is the best we can do xx

  2. Love that image today… about making the moment perfect. Seems we’re on the same wavelength yet again!

  3. Natalie Villa says:

    Awwww… My heart feels for you and your family. What a special moment that was. There is nothing like a mother’s love. After reading your post, I have promised myself to ring mum first thing in the morning and to say “I love you mum”. I do say it quite often, but tomorrow, I’m really going to mean it.
    If anything, I think I’ll be telling a few people that I love them. Life is precious and we really need to show our loved ones that we really do care.
    Thanks for sharing with us Nathalie. Your a beautiful person, inside and out. Xx

    • Love is such a powerful word and it is so important to tell those that you do love. Even on a low day I’m a big I love you person xx

  4. Georgie U says:

    Ohhhhh! xo and love Nathalie – What an inspiration.

    When I was heading down into depression, I would read your encouraging FB posts each day – They were a happy place. I wish I had actually acted on some of them though – the ones about taking time for myself. Keep telling Mums – and yourself these things – If I’d acted, I might have avoided complete burnout. And now as I’m on my way out the other side, this Happy Place is helping immensely.

    xo Keep being you – thinking of you.

    • Georgie very pleased to hear you are on the way up. I think many of us have depression which can consume us and it is tough finding your way out but just little steps everyday can help. I was working very long hours everyday trying to keep up with everything, now I have too taken my own advice and take time out for me and my family and feel much happier for this. xx

  5. Sooz said that so well. I too look forward to your posts every day, and often they are what help me get through my day.
    Today, my happy place was catching up with a good friend of mine who has been battling cancer for over a year. I haven’t been there for her as much as I should, which makes me feel terrible, but she is very forgiving and so grateful for each day. We were able to walk and talk and cry together today, but most of all be happy that we have TODAY. She is an amazing lady, and I’m lucky to have her as a friend.

    • So glad can help a little, for me just expressing myself with like minded mothers really helps.
      So sorry about your friend’s battle with cancer, but you are ther for her now and that is so important.
      We get caught up in our lives but the support you have now given her, will make her stronger. I hope you both have many happy day to day moments.xx

  6. debbie says:

    I don’t know you personally but through your openness in your blog you have let us all into your life. Nathalie you are very brave and committed, your mother is very lucky to have such a caring and patient daughter. You may not always feel it but you are very strong and will be able to deal with what needs to be dealt with in the future with the knowledge that you have given your best and that is all one can do. Sounds to me you are doing a wonderful job! with your Mum, your kids, works and through this …. Yourself! Hope there are lots of smiles at your place today :)

    My Happy Place #12 Was spending some one on one time with Miss 5. We did some shopping and it was nice to have her all to myself holding hands and chatting. She is growing up and its something I’m finding bitter sweet, I don’t want this time to pass I love being her all but am also proud of the beautiful little person she is becoming. School next year so I’m trying to saviour these beautiful moments I’ll treasure for a life time.

    • Thank you Debbie, I like to share parts of my life to show that although I work with behaviour I am normal and struggle too.
      Sounds like you had a fab time with Miss 5,cherish all these happy moments because I now look at my Miss 15 and can still recall her at 5 and all the happy memories we had and of course still having.xx

  7. Suzanne says:

    Thank you so much Nathalie for bringing The Happy Place into my life. Your efforts to find a way to be happy amidst challenges is inspiring. I had not found time to write my happy place until now, but I have been reading your posts each day. Your posts inspire me to think more positively – to focus more on what is good, rather than what is not. I find most things I read, hear or see each day to be focussed on the negative. Just to stop and think about the positive is enough to lift the spirits each day.

    My happy place today has been to be well enough (from the flu) to go out with the kids. The kids played (and fought – but we tried to ignore what we could) while my sister-in-law and I sat out on the lawn pulling out weeds and chatting. We ended up enjoying a nice bottle of vino too. Also, finally, after 6 months of nothing happening, we are all ready to have the lawn rolled-on and the paving down. I am happy in the knowledge that the days of having piles of grey dirt trecked inside the house are limited. My last happy place for the day was enjoying the giggles of delight as I tickled Miss 2 as I got her into bed. Her giggles are contagious and I love that she is so happy <3

    • Suzanne it is sometimes a real struggle when you have urgh days to find the happiness but there are, as I’ve started the challenge I always find the odd moments of happiness here and there. Glad your flu is over and happy you had a lovely afternoon and roll on the new lawn. Giggles are awesome.xx

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